Can a Hormone Keep a Man From Creepin'?
11/19/2012 11:56:00 AM
When I saw this story, I was like, “What?” A hormone to keep your man faithful? Now, I am not a paranoid sister. I trust my man but will not obsess over what runs through his head or anything, right? But majority of women are curious what our mate would do in a tempting situation. So what’s hormones got to do with it? According to this study, it may cause interference from your mates’ temptation to creep or try to holla at someone else.
Oxytocin, also known as the love or cuddle hormone, actually makes partnered men put physical distance between themselves and attractive women, according to a study recently published in The Journal of Neuroscience. Of course there is no guarantee [it will induce] fidelity, but increased oxytocin levels may keep men from approaching an attractive stranger in the first place. And that’s not all.
Turns out oxytocin can make a man feel closer to his partner and enhance his attachment to her, even when she’s not physically present. While it’s not entirely clear how oxytocin works, it’s possible that the hormone interacts with other brain chemicals such as dopamine to make love a more rewarding and addictive experience.
That’s all well and good but aren’t there ways to stay on your mates mind? Women’s Health Magazine says so:
Text him at lunch. Simply thinking about you can release oxytocin, even in the absence of physical contact, according to a review of oxytocin studies published in the journal Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews. While you’re both at work, text him about the sexy dream or fantasy you’ve had, or (to keep it more PG) that you’re psyched to see him later.
Give him a (gentle) rubdown. When researchers at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles gave healthy adults either a 45-minute deep-tissue Swedish massage or a light massage of the same length, participants given the lighter massage experienced a higher boost of oxytocin than those who got the deep-digging treatment. Your touch should be more than a tickle but less intense than a workout. Because everyone’s perception of pressure differs, and his back may tolerate more pressure than his other parts, start light and tell him to pipe up if he’d like you to use more muscle.
Be the big spoon. Intimate contact can boost oxytocin levels, but some guys claim not to be cuddly sleepers. If his excuse is midnight sweats, let him sleep on his stomach and sling an arm around his waist. Back pain? Spooning can help him ease pressure on the spine.
Start your day with some lovin’. Early morning affection releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good.
At the end of the day, whether male or female, of course someone may catch your eye. You’re in a relationship – not blind! But a “glance” is simply that. It’s when our eyes “linger” our mind may “wonder” and eventually, we could end up “wandering”. We must be real with ourselves about our weaknesses and stand against them. If you like big booties, be cautious around the big booty cutie at the office. If you like a man in uniform, don’t get so friendly with the security desk at work. Make a decision to remain faithful. Is it easy? It depends on the person. If you desire faithfulness, then do it. But don’t be lured in because of outside sources. . Yeah, something may look good but it may not be better than what you have.
Bottom line: guard your eyes, heart and mind – your relationship depends on it