Worth the Wait: Keeping the "V" Card
11/29/2012 1:58:00 PM
In this world of MTV's “Teen Moms” and “16 and Pregnant”, not all teens are so ready to give up their V card. Even some celebs waited before doing the do: Jessica Simpson at 22 with then husband Nick Lachay, Kevin Jonas waited until his wedding night, lingerie model Adriana Lima waited until her wedding day at 27 and from what I hear, Beyonce waited until she was at least 21. In fact at the 2008 MTV Europe Music Awards, Beyonce said, "I had one romance when I was 13 to 17, but we didn't, you know... since then I've only had one boyfriend in my life — Jay." So that may even mean Jay-Z was her first since they began dating in 2002. A recent study pointed out those who wait tend to have more fulfilling relationships later in life. One person who is waiting talks about it to Essence.com: Evette Holyfield!
She is stunningly beautiful and determined to wait until marriage. Her daddy is non other than former heavyweight boxing champ Evander Holyfield. Though he himself has had baby-mama drama (some in wedlock; some out;) the 27-year-old credits her father. She says at the early age of six he told her to stay pure, but her faith for helping her see it through from then on. She also speaks to young women about her decision. Here's some of what she said:
ESSENCE.COM: When did you decide to be abstinent until marriage?
EVETTE HOLYFIELD: We grew up in a Christian home. When I was around six years old, my dad said to me, “You don’t need to have sex outside of marriage.” He went through the whole spiel with me. So as I grew up, I thought, okay dad, if you don’t want me to do it, I’m not gonna do it. Then I started to really understand church – the words in the Bible and what the pastor is really saying. At that point, I wasn’t just doing it because my dad said don’t, but rather, I now believe that by waiting, God will bless me and bring me a great husband. I want to meet somebody amazing, and I know that if I do this, I’m doing this for him and I. That’s what I want.
ESSENCE.COM: Has it been a difficult decision for you?
HOLYFIELD: Honestly, it’s easy for me. I was in a three-year relationship, and I never had those desires for him in that way. He never pressured me. In my mind, I already have it set that I’m not gonna do it, so if someone were to pressure me, it wouldn’t even phase me. I just don’t have those desires.
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