Kick the "F" Word to the Curb in 2013 (It's Not the Word You Think!)
12/27/2012 12:00:00 PM
Another year is almost here and what will you do different?
Sometimes we settle for less for many reasons but the biggest is the “f” word: FEAR.
Maybe its fear of rejection. The unknown. Not being good enough. There’s even fear of success – I don’t have that one! But the top one for most is fear of…failure.
Antoine Moss, Ph.D did an interview with a young obviously fearless man for Black Enterprise. He first cited some of the above reasons as top fear factors for people but discusses how to overcome them with millennial entrepreneur Farrah Gray. You know him, right? Now 28, Gray was raised on Chicago’s South Side but by age 14, was one of the youngest teens to become a self-made millionaire in the United States. And as a man of color, he broke the barriers and is an icon for black history.
But regardless of race, anyone can listen to what this young man has to say. Fear has no color but one motive: to hold you back. In the piece, “Failure’s Not an Option: 5 Success Tips from a Young Millionaire” he shares with Black Enterprise readers on how to overcome the fear of failure:
Depersonalize failure and rejection: Don’t view yourself as a failure. Failure and rejection are just somebody else’s opinions of you. Embrace the concept of failure and use it as a learning experience because it’s not over until you win.
Become self-made and never give up: When you feel like giving up think about the reasons why you’ve held on so long. Remember that when you face your breaking point your breakthrough is right around the corner because persistence is the best way to overcome resistance. Be mindful that you have to walk and knock on 1,000 doors before one will open.
Operate to the beat of your own drum and don’t take no for an answer: As young people and professionals, we’ve been told “no” all of our lives—’No, it’s not your turn,’ ‘No, you’re not old enough,” ‘No, you don’t have enough experience,’ or ‘No, you can’t get a loan.’ But now it’s time to for you to say, ‘Nobody will stop me!’
Be your own Chief Executive Officer (CEO) or Only Operating Officer (OOO): You have to make things happen for yourself. You are your own product and service. You must continue to develop and refine yourself so you will be nimble, therefore you’ll be able to adapt to the ever-changing business and job markets.
Don’t wait. Hustle: Abraham Lincoln once said, ‘Things come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.’ We are a generation of hustle, and we should never forget that. If one does it for the right reasons, hustling will bring about many positive rewards and benefits. Don’t wait, start hustling now.
As we go into another year, let this one be the year of momentum, fearless pursuit and the path to your prosperity. Look, I am not trying to preach but I must quote a scripture that will be a foundation on faith versus fear for 2013: “Don’t be afraid. I am with you. Don’t tremble with fear. I am your God. I will make you strong,as I protect you with my arm and give you victories.” Isaiah 41:10. Through faith, focus and not being ruled by fear anything is possible.
So in 2013, let’s give the “f” word a kick to the curb. Goodbye fear…you have been a hindrance but no more.