For Couples & Singles: Valentine's Do's and Don'ts
2/12/2013 11:41:00 AM
Valentine’s Day is just another day for some. Yes, I know all the pink and red may be nauseating for a few folk. And Hallmark makes boo coo cash on this imaginary holiday. But still, I enjoy love and a day to celebrate it is even better. If only I could get a vacation day…
But what are some things that should be on the “do” and “don’t” list of Valentines Day 2013? Ellis Moore, BDO Contributing Writer offers some insights:
DO switch things up a bit
Get creative with how to say those three little words — maybe she’s had her eye on a special piece of jewelry or he’s had his eye on the latest gadget. Or you could surprise them with a love note (or love text).
Particularly if you share a bank account and a credit card with your sweetheart, breaking the bank is a bad idea. Keep within your budget and have the nicest evening you can afford. If it is too much, they’ll likely be panicked about money and too stressed to have fun.
DON’T contact your ex
Resist the urge to call, e-mail, G-chat, Facebook, instant-message or text your ex. Trust us, no good can come of this. And if they contacts you? Well, that’s why your phone has caller ID and an ignore button.
DO Turn off the electronics
While we live in a fast paced time with cell phones or personal digital assistants running our lives, Valentine’s Day is not a time for interruptions. Turn off the phone, the Palm or Blackberry, and focus your attention on your significant other.
DON’T get hung up on the date
It’s OK to celebrate the big day sometime other than Feb. 14. Choose another day during the week Valentine’s Day falls; reservations will be easier to get, and prices will be cheaper.
If You’re Single:
DO change the meaning of Valentine’s Day
If you’re single, DO change the meaning of Valentine’s Day. Make it a day to celebrate the love you have for anyone special in your life. Hang out with friends or family. If you don’t have a significant other, spend time with the other people you love. Everyone can actually enjoy the day, not just couples. Bottom line: no matter what your relationship status, DO share a valentine with your family and friends (we did it when we were kids, so why stop now?). This tradition of valentine giving will help spread a little love. You many want to try to think of someone who may be having a hard time this Valentine’s Day, and needs a pick-me-up.
DON’T feel bad
DON’T feel bad or get depressed about being single. Most people are single, and you should look forward to meeting Mr. or Ms. Right. See potential, not limitations. Focus on a positive future. Usually there’s more people who aren’t in relationships than are. People who aren’t in relationships think they should feel bad, and instead, they focus on what’s bad in their life. People should not define the significance and value of their life by whether or not they’re in a relationship and that’s what happens on Valentine’s Day.
DO get out and meet other singles.
If you’re single, DO get out and meet other single people. Go to a Valentine’s Day party or out to dinner with a group of single friends — there are a lot of parties and more singles than couples, so live it up! Get out and do something fun or that makes you feel happy. Wherever you go there are going to be tons of people who are not currently in a relationship.
DON’T stay home alone.
If you know you’re going to feel sad, make plans with someone to get out of your house and do something fun. Whatever you do, don’t stay home and feel bad about being single. Go on, go out and have some fun with friends!
Okay, let me throw in a final sidebar. Look, Valentine's Day is a commercial holiday. But you should celebrate love – including loving yourself – every day. Don’t get caught up in the balloons, roses and romance of one day. Flowers die. Balloons lose air. And romance can happen anytime and at the moment you least expect it. If you are looking for love, let it find you. But take care of you until that special love comes into your life. There's nothing better to offer someone than a whole and emotionally healthy you.
Already got a boo? Appreciate them everyday before and beyond Thursday. Gifts and romantic dinners are nice but your relationship must thrive beyond the last candle of the night. Let your focus not be on what happens that day but how you can build a better relationship beyond the biggest Hallmark day of the year.