Niecy Nash on Love, Dating and Keeping Your Hubby Happy!
6/13/2013 10:45:00 AM
I like that Niecy Nash believes a sermon is best preached through seeing your life. And as a former wife of a deacon, this lady knows about church life!But as a comedian, actress and Christian, she is the epitome of a woman who has many life experiences and willing to share them. In fact, the now happily married funny lady wants to help out the single ladies in particular!
After reading her article in this weeks, JET, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache had she been around back in my single days! As a happily married woman myself, I admire Niecy for being so open on how women can find true love, date right and be good wives. (Sidebar: she has a theory on his belly staying full but...that's for the grown folk to read!) Anyhoo, via Hello Beautiful, she previously listed 5 dating tips I think you'll get a kick out of from her book, “It’s Hard to Fight N*ked. On a recent blog she says, "I wrote a book with the hopes of encouraging & inspiring you to receive God’s best for you. I don’t claim to an “expert”, I’m just a woman who has been through it! I’ve been desperately single, an internet dater, married, divorced, and happily re-married. I want to share all of these crazy experiences with you! I am also providing REAL strategies on how to get and maintain the relationship you deserve. " Ok, Niecy! But here are her tips:
1. The title of her book tells it all.
“You will learn a lot about yourself, the opposite sex, how traditional myths have gotten us of track, and ultimately how hard it is to fight naked. If you start naked you might avoid a fight altogether!”
2. Date for your priorities, not your preferences.
“People always say, ‘How did you meet your husband? How did you get this kind of relationship? God, you guys seem so good together and perfectly matched.’ I’m like, ‘Okay, let me tell you how to get the man who’s perfectly matched for you,’ you know, and it starts with—and this is a conversation I had with Sherri, let me tell you what, because Sherri was still at a place when she met Lamar where she wanted to date for her preferences as opposed to her priorities.”
3. Don’t be afraid of online dating.
“Let me tell you what. I was on Match.com, Black People Meet. I was on Christian Singles and BlackWomenWithWeavesAndKids.org or something like that.”
4. You attract what you are.
“The biggest problem that women make, or people make in getting a relationship, is you jump in when you’re not your best self. You draw that similar energy to you.”
5. Take a selfie everyday.
“I would take pictures everyday because I wanted him to see what he was missing.”
Peep her interview about the book here!