Should You Have a "Workout Date"?
12/19/2013 12:00:00 PM
So if fitness is on your agenda for 2014, you’re not alone. Every year millions make the move to get in better shape. While exercise is beneficial physically, it can enhance your love life with your boo. Oh yeah! We know exercise can help prevent depression, heart disease, and diabetes, block weight gain and more. However, it might surprise you to learn that exercise assists in having a healthy, happy sex life.
In her piece, “Sexual Benefits of Exercise”, Dr. Laura Berman points out the ways exercise makes for good lovin’. Boosting endorphins, making your blood pump, and for women it increases testosterone by adding muscle mass. And that girlfriend, helps your libido while improving your body image. I know many a married women who would appreciate – as their spouses would- this information, should you take your mate with you to the gym, though?
Dr. Laura points out if you and your partner work out as a team, you will not only be more likely to stick with it, but you will also enjoy increased attraction to each other. Sounds perfect, right? After all, it's a way to get in some quality time and support each other’s fitness goals. But there are some caveats.
Esther Crain tackles this in the article, “Significant Other: Good or Bad Idea?” via Women’s Health Magazine. Check it out:
It’s one of those things that always sounds like a fab idea: you and your partner hitting the gym and getting fit as a twosome. On one hand, it’s a way to spend more quality time together—and if you’re in the early stages of a relationship, a date idea that’s way more fun (and hot!) than dinner and a movie. Plus, supporting each other’s fitness goals can enhance your connection. “You’re helping each other improve your game and get healthy together, and that can leave you feeling more attracted to each other,” says Los Angeles–based psychologist Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D.
But there are a few factors that can keep romantic partners from becoming successful gym partners. First, if you’re not at the same fitness level. Let’s say you run an eight-minute mile, while your guy lags way behind. You’ll probably slow down a bit to match his pace at first. But after a while, the differences in your abilities will compromise your performance, and that can trigger resentment on your part (and potentially unhealthy competition on his), says Thomas.
Same thing if your level of fitness commitment isn’t in sync—for example, you have no problem skipping a sweat session if something else winds up on your calendar, while he never misses a day. When you beg off to watch a True Blood marathon or have dinner with friends, he might give you a hard time, which might make you feel like a slacker, says Thomas.
Thing is, you won’t know if you’re compatible workout buddies until you give it a try. So Thomas suggests hitting the gym together for a few sessions to see how it feels. If you feel supported and motivated, keep going together. But if you feel criticized or undermined, it may be a better idea to work out solo. Better to go your separate ways at the gym than build resentment, start fighting…and go your separate ways as a couple.
Remember, a goal without a plan is a wish. If fitness is in your plan – with or without your mate – write it down. Set realistic goals and celebrate even small steps of success. Will there be some days you fall off? Absolutely. But get back up and jump back in….
Even if your mate doesn’t.