Is Your Desk....Dangerous?

Posted 4/23/2014 11:51:00 AM

Today is Administrative Professionals' Day! While cards, lunch, flowers or other goodies are fine this day, we should find ways to make the environment positive for these – and other- workers year round. No job or position is perfect, but reducing stress in the workplace by creating a healthier workspace is a gift that is invaluable – all year long! Administrative professionals in particular handle so much and can be left feeling frazzled, drained, and underappreciated the other 364 days.

Is that you?

Maybe you're not in this field but you still have a hard time finding peace in the workplace. Finding a work-life balance is crucial - for our overall health. Mentally, emotionally, and physically we must have some serenity to function in our best capacity. And the "c" word has a major impact on how we function.


Clutter is eye noise!  Not only that, but it can ...

First Date? You've Got 12 Minutes...

Posted 4/22/2014 11:00:00 AM

Ever spend hours getting ready for a first date? Maybe you even dropped some boo-coo cash on a new outfit. Perhaps you indulged in a spa date or hit up the hairdresser. All that hard work, time, and money only to find the first date was a flop. While you spent hours – maybe even days – prepping, how about a new study reveals it only takes 12 minutes to find if a first date is right? Chances are, if the first date goes wrong, a second one may be out of the question.

A new study of over 2,000 singles from the UK-based financial firm AXA, found that within minutes, you instantly notice crucial things that can make or break your attraction. Now, I admit one date back in my twenties I knew would be the last. This cat came immediately after a game of ball with his frat ...

Booty & Body Grabs Viewed as "Part of Everyday Life" by Girls?

Posted 4/18/2014 12:05:00 PM

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, as I discussed in a previous blog. What’s scary is that many girls hold views that sexual violence of any form is a norm. In fact, a 13-year-old revealed in a study on sexual violence her take on being touched, harassed, and grabbed by male peers. “They grab you, touch your butt and try to, like, touch you in the front, and run away, but it’s okay, I mean … I never think it’s a big thing because they do it to everyone.”


So why don’t the girls put their foot down when it comes to being violated in any sexual form? Some believe the fear of being deemed a “slut” for being on the receiving end of unwanted advances as part of the reason. This leads to many teen girls staying silent; not reporting sexual violence or harassment. The shocking results in ...

Why Nice Gals -And Guys -Finish Last (Sometimes)

Posted 4/17/2014 11:33:00 AM

I remember years ago back in my single days, going out to eat with two of my male buddies. As one told me about a girl who was diggin’ on him, I gave my input. “She’s really nice. You should at least go out with her.” To my dismay, he said, “I don’t know…she’s too nice! I need a girl with a little bad in her!” I was floored. I mean yeah, we've all heard the saying that "nice guys finish last" but I didn’t realize that went for women, too! After all, I knew some men who were turned off or scared of the “bad girl” type. I also knew some women who have strong personalities are often shunned and labeled as “mean” or “bitter”. However, I had examples of when a woman played hard to get, the harder a guy went after her.

In college, I had a ...

Star Phone Interview: Marlon Wayans!

Posted 4/16/2014 12:10:00 PM

If you missed the special KC premiere, this Friday you can check out, “A Haunted House 2”! This sequel starring Marlon Wayans as Malcolm, who is starting fresh with his new girlfriend and her two children. (He had to exorcise a demon out his ex, remember?) After moving into their dream home, Malcolm is once again plagued by bizarre paranormal events. Listen in as Marlon and I chop it up about the film, an upcoming “Jackson family-like tour” and more!

April 15th Is Here: Last Minute Tax Tips

Posted 4/15/2014 11:32:00 AM

Today is the day most dread….

Tax Day!

Yep, Uncle Sam and Aunt Iris want their cash – unless of course, they decide to be generous and give you a return. After all, it’s your money they been holding onto, anyway! Tax day causes trepidation in many people, but it shouldn’t. If you aren’t wrapped up yet, you still have time. Remember, you must file your taxes or request an extension by 11:59 p.m. Tuesday. If you choose the latter, the deadlines for extensions are October 15, 2014.

It’s not just tax prep but what happens if Auntie Iris doesn’t like what she sees? You know, the “A” word: audit? You can rest easy after submitting your taxes-- your chance of getting audited is low. Experts say budget cuts and new responsibilities are straining the Internal Revenue Service's ability to police tax returns, meaning they will have fewer agents auditing ...

Monday Motivator: Dealing with the Office Pet ...Without Losing Your Cool!

Posted 4/14/2014 11:28:00 AM

Got a co-worker who tap dances on you last reserve nerve? Maybe you work with a complete pain in the butt. Don't let them steal your joy or productivity! It really stinks when the office pain-in-the-butt is also the office pet!  They're the office pet who can do no wrong; or they actually do wrong but get away with it! In some cases, office favoritism can be so draining that solid employees get so frustrated that they lose their focus. You've heard the phrase, “Favor ain't fair!” and sometimes even more so in the workplace.

Don't get it twisted; I believe every dog has its' day. Eventually, dirty deeds catch up to people. If you are dealing with a conniving, trouble making, lazy, shiftless, arrogant co-worker, one day their reign will end.  But on the other hand, sometimes the favored co-worker is actually great; they are goal-oriented, successful, a mover ...

Keeping Prom Night Problem Free

Posted 4/11/2014 11:53:00 AM

As much as I would love to have fond prom memories, mine are just okay. Nothing magical. No elated feelings.  Simply a night I dressed up, hung out past curfew (with permission) and went to Shoney’s for breakfast. Or was it Denny’s?

Nevertheless, the prom can be a great time for teens to build unforgettable memories.  Dressing up, rollin’ in a limo, eating good grub and dancing the night away…good times, right? They can be….

Or not.

I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade but this time of year is hazardous to our youth. Some celebrations include underage drinking – which ups the ante for accidents, fights, or even sexual violence.  The costly night can cost teens their safety or their life if right decisions aren’t made. Sometimes it’s not even tragic but life-changing events can go down on this special night. I know a girl who was a ...

Star Phone: Tony Goldwyn from "Scandal" and the film "Divergent"!

Posted 4/9/2014 12:34:00 PM

We love us some Fitz -so much so we forget he has other roles!

Our bad, Fitz. I  mean, Tony!

Tony Goldwyn stars in the ABC hit drama "Scandal", as Fitzgerald Grant III, President of the United States. But you can also catch him on the big screen! He currently stars in the box office hit film "Divergent" as Andrew Prior.  Tony is also a well-known director, having directed the movie "A Walk on the Moon", the first season of " Dexter" for Showtime, as well as a recent episode of "Scandal". Listen in as he shares a little bit on how he got on the hit ABC show, his role in his most recent film and more!

Women Who Cheat: When You're Most Vulnerable

Posted 4/8/2014 11:49:00 AM

In the May issue of Essence magazine, for their “Sex & Love” topic, a startling stat popped out: “Married women are now 40% more likely to cheat than 20 years ago!”  But why?

Now, the “street chic” in me cited many reasons; from women not letting themselves be played by their cheating counterparts, (revenge nookie), for the “thrill” of it, or simply to satisfy an unmet need.  But no matter the gender, cheating is flat out wrong.  And for years people have mainly pointed to men as the guilty culprits when it comes to cheating. But women are catching up. 

According to the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey, the percentage of wives having affairs rose to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men was constant at 21 percent. While neither number is good, this shows women are living out TLC’s “Creep” more than ever. One therapist ...