April 15th Is Here: Last Minute Tax Tips

Posted 4/15/2014 11:32:00 AM

Today is the day most dread….

Tax Day!

Yep, Uncle Sam and Aunt Iris want their cash – unless of course, they decide to be generous and give you a return. After all, it’s your money they been holding onto, anyway! Tax day causes trepidation in many people, but it shouldn’t. If you aren’t wrapped up yet, you still have time. Remember, you must file your taxes or request an extension by 11:59 p.m. Tuesday. If you choose the latter, the deadlines for extensions are October 15, 2014.

It’s not just tax prep but what happens if Auntie Iris doesn’t like what she sees? You know, the “A” word: audit? You can rest easy after submitting your taxes-- your chance of getting audited is low. Experts say budget cuts and new responsibilities are straining the Internal Revenue Service's ability to police tax returns, meaning they will have fewer agents auditing ...

Monday Motivator: Dealing with the Office Pet ...Without Losing Your Cool!

Posted 4/14/2014 11:28:00 AM

Got a co-worker who tap dances on you last reserve nerve? Maybe you work with a complete pain in the butt. Don't let them steal your joy or productivity! It really stinks when the office pain-in-the-butt is also the office pet!  They're the office pet who can do no wrong; or they actually do wrong but get away with it! In some cases, office favoritism can be so draining that solid employees get so frustrated that they lose their focus. You've heard the phrase, “Favor ain't fair!” and sometimes even more so in the workplace.

Don't get it twisted; I believe every dog has its' day. Eventually, dirty deeds catch up to people. If you are dealing with a conniving, trouble making, lazy, shiftless, arrogant co-worker, one day their reign will end.  But on the other hand, sometimes the favored co-worker is actually great; they are goal-oriented, successful, a mover ...

Keeping Prom Night Problem Free

Posted 4/11/2014 11:53:00 AM

As much as I would love to have fond prom memories, mine are just okay. Nothing magical. No elated feelings.  Simply a night I dressed up, hung out past curfew (with permission) and went to Shoney’s for breakfast. Or was it Denny’s?

Nevertheless, the prom can be a great time for teens to build unforgettable memories.  Dressing up, rollin’ in a limo, eating good grub and dancing the night away…good times, right? They can be….

Or not.

I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade but this time of year is hazardous to our youth. Some celebrations include underage drinking – which ups the ante for accidents, fights, or even sexual violence.  The costly night can cost teens their safety or their life if right decisions aren’t made. Sometimes it’s not even tragic but life-changing events can go down on this special night. I know a girl who was a ...

Star Phone: Tony Goldwyn from "Scandal" and the film "Divergent"!

Posted 4/9/2014 12:34:00 PM

We love us some Fitz -so much so we forget he has other roles!

Our bad, Fitz. I  mean, Tony!

Tony Goldwyn stars in the ABC hit drama "Scandal", as Fitzgerald Grant III, President of the United States. But you can also catch him on the big screen! He currently stars in the box office hit film "Divergent" as Andrew Prior.  Tony is also a well-known director, having directed the movie "A Walk on the Moon", the first season of " Dexter" for Showtime, as well as a recent episode of "Scandal". Listen in as he shares a little bit on how he got on the hit ABC show, his role in his most recent film and more!

Women Who Cheat: When You're Most Vulnerable

Posted 4/8/2014 11:49:00 AM

In the May issue of Essence magazine, for their “Sex & Love” topic, a startling stat popped out: “Married women are now 40% more likely to cheat than 20 years ago!”  But why?

Now, the “street chic” in me cited many reasons; from women not letting themselves be played by their cheating counterparts, (revenge nookie), for the “thrill” of it, or simply to satisfy an unmet need.  But no matter the gender, cheating is flat out wrong.  And for years people have mainly pointed to men as the guilty culprits when it comes to cheating. But women are catching up. 

According to the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey, the percentage of wives having affairs rose to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men was constant at 21 percent. While neither number is good, this shows women are living out TLC’s “Creep” more than ever. One therapist ...

Monday Motivator: HIV Prevention for Youth

Posted 4/7/2014 12:04:00 PM

This Thursday, April 10, is National Youth HIV & AIDS Awareness Day (NYHAAD).   For today’s Monday Motivator, I felt the need to use this platform to promote that information is powerful in the fight against HIV and AIDS. it is crucial that teens and young adults arm themselves with information and the courage to make decisions that will keep them free from infection of HIV and other STD’s. The fact is HIV and other STD’s are preventable.

This is only the second year that this day has been a national day of recognition, as the rates of new HIV infections continue to rise among 13-24 year-olds. My friends from Kansas City CARE Clinic ask that we spread the word in an effort to mobilize/call-to-action young people, and adults.  KC CARE has two youth programs, (Youth Advisory Council) and students in BART (Becoming a Responsible Teen) which not only teach about ...

Marriage Has It's Benefits: Wealth, Health, and More!

Posted 4/4/2014 12:09:00 PM

Tis the season for prom, graduation, and yes the “W” word: weddings.

Often, people spend so much of their resources of time, energy, and money on the wedding itself that the actual marriage is not heavily weighed.  Some people even shun the idea of marriage or simply don’t see why they need it. After all, they’ve been with their boo for ten years and things are fine – why marry?

That could lead to another conversation all together…

But marriage can be a beautiful commitment between two people - and adds some benefits for women and men. In fact, men they benefit the following six ways:

1. Increase Your Pay-A Virginia Commonwealth University study found that married men earn 22 percent more than their similarly experienced but single colleagues.

2. Speed Up Your Next Promotion-Married men receive higher performance ratings and faster promotions than bachelors, a 2005 study of U.S. ...

Embracing Your Body - Just As It Is!

Posted 4/3/2014 11:34:00 AM

I believe in taking care of your body and loving it. It doesn’t mean you’re vain; it simply means you realize you have one body. Care for it. Embrace it. But yet don’t be defined by it.

There is nothing wrong with being in shape or having a bombshell body. But like I always tell my girls, don’t let your beauty – or your booty – be the only thing you have going for you. Value your other qualities while embracing whatever God-given beauty you possess.  I always applaud women who are confident with who they are -just like they are. While each of us may have our own preference of how we desire to look or what we deem acceptable or attractive, that’s okay. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But we should appreciate one beautiful trait we all need: self-love.

Los Angeles native Amani ...

Throwin' Self Shade: Are You Your Own Hater?

Posted 4/2/2014 11:45:00 AM

"Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity." (Colin Powell)


Often when one exhibits some skill, talent, or any form of excellence they deal with criticism, disdain or straight up hatin’! Let’s be real: no one hates on another because they have nothing going for themselves! So as you strive for greatness, you can’t please everyone. When you do, you end up settling to please others and not yourself. But when you are self-assured, you will pursue your goals and dreams. Your work will speak for itself, confirming you got it goin’ on!

Thus, you will have haters.

The Urban Dictionary defines our beloved hater(s) as: “A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The ...

Get Stats & Facts: April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Posted 4/1/2014 11:36:00 AM

One in 6 women will be the victim of completed or attempted rape.

Less than 20% of all rapes are reported.

1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused during childhood.

One stat from the Department of Justice showed 38% of victims are raped by a friend or acquaintance. During seasons like prom, acquaintance rape is an added risk for teens – especially if alcohol or drugs are involved.

And campus rape happens all too often.

In fact, one of KU’s football players is under investigation after reports of an alleged sexual assault this past weekend. A while back reports revealed MU did not investigate or tell law enforcement officials about an alleged rape, possibly by one or more members of its football team, despite administrators finding out about the alleged 2010 incident. Tragically, the alleged victim, a member of the swim team, committed suicide ...