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Happy Fathers Day
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6/21/2009 12:00:00 AM
This is probably the most difficult blog that I have ever written. You see, my blog entries are not just help or information for you; they are also counseling and therapeutic for me. It took me a full week to complete this entry.
Father’s Day should be a simply celebration of men that illustrate compassion, love, and guidance to their adapted, biological, or appointed children
When I think of Father’s Day, I think of my Dad…somebody that enjoys life, even though age has slowed him down...on his own since he was 12…high school graduate…has life-long friends…monitored me around the clock …retired after nearly 40 yrs of service…for almost 10 of those years, he worked two full-time jobs…woke up every morning to cook my breakfast and to take me to the bus stop and a lot of mornings to school…very opinionated…kicked it on Saturday nights…at church every Sunday morning…great taste and his own swag…will do anything for his family…and loved his Mother, he would travel 10 hrs one-way just to see her over a weekend….maybe he didn’t attend all of my extracurricular activities because of his work schedule, but he was available for me 24/7…and he could sum up a solution to any problem in a matter of seconds…his most famous slogan, “don’t be dumb all your life.” As much as I try to differentiate myself from him, in a lot of ways I hope…wish…and pray that I can be 25% of the Father he is.
Even though he is one of a kind for me, I know that there are other extraordinary men in the world that are fulfilling the definition of Father. But, for some, it is very difficult to celebrate Father’s Day
If you go to any club, barber or beauty shop; you could definitely hear the opposite…. “my baby-mama is a trip, I never get a chance to see my kids”…“my baby-daddy can’t pay his child support on time”… “we’re not together, so why should he have a relationship with his kids” … “he spends more time with his other kids that with mine”…blah…blah…blah.
Somewhere in this universe, one bad relationship between a man and a woman that had a child together…and didn’t stay together messed up the whole Father image. I know what you’re going to say…if you are prehistoric school, you’ll quote the infamous Temptation song, “Papa Was a Rolling Stone,” or if you are into current events, you’ll talk about the young man with 20 kids in Iowa…blah…blah...blah. I know the stories and the stereotypes. But, in the end, you two decided at some point in history to mash-up…and out of that mashing came a child. So, why not have some type of descent relationship with each other for the child’s well-being. I know you’re going to say that “I don’t need her or him to raise my child,” but in actuality you do…all of your child’s relationships…business, social, spiritual, and personal begin with the parental relationship. Yeah, sure there are plenty of single-parent success stories…and they should be applauded, but there would be even more success stories if there was a dual-parental foundation…I did say parental and not marital foundation.
The foundation should consist of two adults being able to communicate and make sound decision together about their kid…it’s as simple as that. No false hopes of getting back together and crazy thoughts that the cookie is still yours…just communicate, make decisions, and stick to your agreements.
If you knew that your child would excel mentality, physically, and spiritually just by watching his/her Parents perform those three pieces…communicating, making joint decisions, and becoming agreeable; shouldn’t you commit yourself to trying this. Now, the definition of commit in this blog is a lifetime dedication for the uplift of your child…not the I’m going to try this and if he/she don’t come on board f$%&’em
Even though I had an excellent Father example, sometimes, I swear I’m failing at this job. Sometimes I’m too demanding…yell too much…ignore too often…just want to sleep for a change…work too much…miss too many church services….the list goes on and on.
But I think, I inherited one important quality from my Father….I always care and never give up…no matter what the circumstance or the status of the relationship, I continue to care and never give up on my family, kids, or responsibilities.
My wish for you on this Father’s Day is to not only care and never give up on your kids or your baby mama/daddy, but to make a total commitment to realign your relationship with your baby mama/daddy that includes communication, making joint decisions, and becoming agreeable…remember this is for the successful development of your offspring…it ain’t about your hooking back up…that train may have come and gone, but the child is at the depot and its your responsibility to put the train on the right track!
Feel free to leave your commits and your memories of your Father!
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Ed Atkins
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Happy Father's Day to all the Dads. Ed your post is beautiful. I love your dad's favorite slogan, "don't be dumb all your life" a lot of people need to hear that! :-)
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Posted By
Yo
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6/21/2009 8:43:07 PM
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i know i am late but i wanted to say HAPPY FATHERSDAY to all dads, i am disable and can't talk !
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Posted By
Gwendolyn Colton
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6/21/2009 9:19:28 AM
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